For the longest time I thought I was teaching my son to obey so he would avoid the “bad guys” (obeying us means obeying teachers, laws, and police in the future). But the reality is I am teaching him to obey so he doesn’t become the bad guy. So he doesn’t become the person that causes parents to hold their children close when he walks by, the person that causes others to fear, the reason you lock your doors at night. Because, in the end, the fundamental difference between a good guy and a bad guy is obedience.
7 It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them; shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of spirits, and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. 11 All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.
He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.